Traditionally, in Indian context, it has been a common scenario in almost all the houses that the females have assumed the responsibilities of home-makers, or say they have been made to do so. From cooking food to washing utensils, to cleaning, sweeping and washing clothes, she takes care of every aspect. And, we accept this as a custom from the day we are born or say, during our growing up days. We grow up seeing our mother and grandmother doing every small piece of work and the same is taught to the daughter also. She is also been assumed to take up the similar roles. A survey conducted shows the following results –
Aren’t you surprised? Rather, shocked? I was looking at the statistics the survey shows, that even in today’s times this is the ratio of gender inequality that exists in our country. Aren’t the results alarming? Indeed they are.
- 2 out of 3 children think laundry to be a mother’s job. Why?
- 81% married men think that their daughters should learn household chores. Shouldn’t they be thinking the same for their sons? If not for the entire family (as they expect from their girl child), at least for his own self. Both the the girl and the boy should be taught to be independent, after a certain age. Isn’t it?
- 76% married men think that although they don’t extend domestic help still they are role models for their children. I have a question to all such males that is it only your wives house or are the children only of your wives? Don’t you have some responsibility towards the home you live in and its members whom you call your family?
- 65% married men agree that their children replicate their behaviour. Alas!, even though you don’t tend to change, then what kind of an example are you setting for them?
- 2 out of 3 children think laundry to be a mother’s job. Here’s the answer to the above why, it is probably because we claim to be modern but that it is limited to our own benefits. Where this modernism sets us working, we ourselves fail the very objective of being modern. Humans are very good at moulding things for their own good. Isn’t it?
Take a look at this video and try to find the answers to the questions raised and if you find some, please carry the change in yourself and try to forward it through the new generation.
Another question that I want to ask everyone is that when females can take up the financial roles (so called traditional role of males) and do justice to it in every possible manner while performing the roles she has been assumed to do since ages, why can’t their male counterparts extend some help to them? Is she some machine that is bound to work 24*7, 365 days a year? Does she not get tired or does she not need a break or holidays? When after five or six days of work, you expect the weekend to come soon so that you get time to relax. Doesn’t she deserve such relaxation. She surely does, and more than any other human being does.
Take a very small example, if your son-in-law extends help to your daughter, you appreciate it, you like it, you love it but when your son extends help to your daughter-in-law, you gossip, you dislike, you kind of develop hatred towards her that she has made your son work whom you always treated like a prince by doing all his odd jobs and fulfilling all his demands as he said. It is easy to raise your daughter as your son, but only a few people have the guts to raise their sons like their daughters. But, if we do so, the family structures shall get less complicated as we will rise above such issues as quoted in the example. Moreover, if we help each other, wouldn’t work become joy instead of a burden on one?